Ep. 185 – Paul Fenner – What To Do When Your Hair Is On Fire
Modern life often throws us into "hair on fire" moments where stress feels insurmountable and overwhelming. Whether it's work demands, family responsibilities, or unforeseen challenges, we all experience these times when it seems impossible to maintain balance.
Understanding and preparing for these "hair on fire" periods is crucial. Communicating with those around us can be beneficial when we anticipate a challenging season. Alerting family members or colleagues ahead of high-pressure events sets realistic expectations and opens pathways to much-needed support.
A particularly common scenario for me occurs during tax season, symbolizing those stress-filled periods. As I put a cap on the 2024 tax season, I wanted to reflect upon an insightful conversation with my friend and coach, Dennis Mosley Williams, about navigating these intense moments.
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1 Big Idea to Think About
One insightful takeaway from the episode is the importance of recognizing and acting on the specific needs of someone going through a stressful "hair on fire" moment, rather than just asking how to help. By showing empathy and taking thoughtful actions, like offering practical assistance or simply checking in to show you care, you demonstrate genuine support and understanding.
1 Way You Can Apply This
To support someone going through a challenging period, try anticipatory support—identifying what they might need and helping without waiting for them to ask. For instance, if a friend is overwhelmed, consider dropping off a meal or offering to take their children to activities, showing that you care through action while lightening their burden. This approach can relieve some of their stress and foster a sense of being genuinely cared for, strengthening your relationship and building a supportive community during tough times.
1 Question to Ask
During stressful 'hair on fire' moments in life, am I actively reaching out to others to offer specific help, or am I placing the burden on them to ask for what they need?
Key Moments From the Show
00:01:25 Preparing family for tax season stress and appreciating support from others.
00:02:46 Importance of considering what someone needs during tough times instead of just asking.
00:04:48 Expressing empathy and support can make a difference in someone's challenging moments.
Resources Featured in This Episode:
Interrupting Stress with Microdoses of Relaxation
The Science of Motivation and Strategies to Help You Achieve Your Purpose
Finding Balance in the Face of Career Transitions